Attachment and Loss

Loss is one of the basic principles of nature. There is no growth without loss.
Why then, do we grieve loss?
The answer, in a word, is ‘Attachment’.
How does a person experiencing the pain of loss, develop perspective about loss and attachment; about rejuvenation and progress?

Loss is one of the basic principles of nature. There is no growth without loss. A child loses his milk teeth to gain permanent teeth. An infant has to gradually lose the warmth and comfort of nursing to be able to grow to be his own person. A baby bird has to lose the comfort and protection of the nest, in order to be able to fly.

Loss, more often than not, is a precursor to a new chapter in the story; sometimes literal rejuvenation, and sometimes simply progress.
Death, a return to the elements and rebirth with a new body, life, and destiny, is an excellent example of the former; a tree undergoing the cycles of seasons with the loss of its leaves and all signs of life in summer and autumn, and bursting with vitality, lush greenery, and ferociously vibrant blooms in rains and spring, an example of the latter. Unintentionally, both the examples chosen are of a cyclical nature – birth-death-birth is a cycle, as is bloom-wither-bloom.
Is one to understand, then, that loss and progress are cyclical?

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